Character & Mental Toughness- If you are never allowed to lose you will never learn how to win

The best part of challenging yourself is knowing that you could lose.  If you can’t lose, it really isn’t a challenge.  Some people will set the video game on easy, or take only the easiest classes, or only play against the easiest competition.   I don’t really see these people as winning because they are not making themselves any better.  Many people even encourage this taking of the easy way by saying it builds your self esteem.  I don’t believe that.  I believe that if you never have the courage to face losing, you will never learn the toughness to win in a challenging environment.  Competing against the best brings out the best in us.  Self esteem doesn’t come from winning against the weak.  Self esteem comes from challenging the best and living to tell the story.   The story of the lessons that made you better.

“I would never, never let Wes win. And he had to get used to it. Either he was going to have to quit playing the sport of football or soccer or whatever he happened to be playing that day, or he had to get better and tougher.”   -Lee Welker, older brother of Wes.

“Only a man who knows what it is like to be defeated can reach down to the bottom of his soul and come up with the extra ounce of power it takes to win when the match is even.”– Muhammad Ali

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About coachbillmoore

Educator/Author/Speaker/HS & NCAA Coach Character Coach Read Coach Moore’s book “On Character and Mental Toughness” Paperback available at Barnes & Noble or Amazon. "The measure of your character and mental toughness is the space between what you are doing and what you could be doing." -Coach Bill Moore
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