Character & Mental Toughness- The two big questions

I have been coaching for quite some time.  I have coached 19 football seasons.  I have coached 14 lacrosse seasons.  I coached a half dozen basketball seasons as well.   I have coached Division 1 college ball all the way to freshmen high school ball.

One thing always amazes me.

No matter the sport, no matter the level, no matter the gender, I am always amazed at how many players simply settle.  They settle for just being on the team instead of being in the game.  They settle for just being in the game instead of being a factor in the game.   They settle for letting a teammate work harder than them in practice and earn more playing time at their expense.  They settle for letting an opposing player at another school work harder than them and earn the spot on the post-season all-star team.

The same can be said of teams.  Too many teams feel they can not compete for championships or that other teams are somehow more deserving.

There are a variety of reasons that this happens.  But one of those reasons I will no longer abide by on the teams I coach.  No longer will players be unaware that they are settling.   From now on they will know better.

From now on I will ask them two questions:

1.) Why not you?

2.) Why not now?

These will not be rhetorical questions.  While I may give them some time to answer, I will want to hear their answer.    I want them to have to think about why they don’t feel they should be a starter or a star.  I want them to think about why they want to wait for success to come to them rather than enjoying it right now.    Hopefully, this will help them to recognize that they can achieve more, and that their effort and attitude determines what they get or don’t get.  Hopefully, they will earn their dream everyday, starting today.

Nobody is going to hand you playing time in high school.  Nobody is going to hand you an all star nomination.  The same holds true in school and in life.  Nobody is going to hand you an “A.”  Nobody is going to walk up and give you a great job or promotion.  Nobody will hand you an honorable discharge or a college degree.

You have to go on the attack right now, and go get what you want.

You. Now.

That’s the first step of a great player.  That’s the first step of a great team.  That’s the first step of a great student or soldier or employee.   That’s the first step in changing from someone who wants it to happen to someone who is making it happen.

So….why not you?  why not now?  Why settle when you could be earning your dream?

“Tomorrow is promised to no man.”- Walter Payton

I just want you to know what is possible.

Read Coach Moore’s new book “On Character and Mental Toughness” available at Barnes & Noble, Amazon and Kindle.

About coachbillmoore

Educator/Author/Speaker/HS & NCAA Coach Character Coach Read Coach Moore’s book “On Character and Mental Toughness” Paperback available at Barnes & Noble or Amazon. "The measure of your character and mental toughness is the space between what you are doing and what you could be doing." -Coach Bill Moore
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