Helping a young person, any person really, to follow a positive path of achievement requires a vice. This allows the person to stay in the proper mindset even when adversity hits and things get tumultuous. The character and mental toughness provided on both sides of the vice channel the person towards continuing on the path to success.
As a coach and teacher, I consider it my duty to hold up one end of that vice with the young people I work with. I am resolute that my side will not waiver or give. I will hold up my side. I teach them about character and mental toughness at every opportunity in class, in the weight room, and on and off the field. Especially when they wish I wouldn’t.
But what about the other side of the vice? The side opposite of mine.
What if there is nobody to hold up the other side by also talking about character and mental toughness? The person we hold dear, will surely fall out the other side of the vice.
What if the the other side is not so firm or resolute? The person we hold may hang in when things are going smoothly, but they will fall out the other side when things get bumpy and difficult in the journey. This, after all, is the reason we need to be firm on both sides in the first place.
Both sides of the vice must be consistently strong. Especially when stressed.
More often than not, the other side is held up by a parent at home. But sometimes there is nobody at home (for a variety of reasons) to hold up that side. In that event, sometimes the young person finds a mentor, teammate, co-worker or friend to hold up the other side and provide a consistent positive message. Unfortunately, sometimes such a mentor or friend is not readily available.
When there is no one to hold up the other side of the vice, all is not quite lost. Sometimes people hold up the other side all on their own, even from a young age. These people are among the most amazing I have had the opportunity to work with. They have every excuse to take the easy way to losing in academics or athletics or even slipping to a troubled life, yet they still manage to be productive and successful, all on their own. They don’t complain about the temporary loss or the temporary pain that stand in the way of immediate gratification. Instead they stay focused on what is important in the long term; getting better by staying on a path of growing in character and mental toughness.-bmoore
I just want you to know what is possible.